So my girlfriend finally met someone through an online dating site.  Not that she has not met tons of people before, she has, even dated a few of them.  They just were not what she was looking for in a man until she met 'the one' - or so she thought.  Yes, I know what you are thinking, she moved too fast.  Actually, to her credit, she did not and took lots of time to get to know each over via the internet through chatting online and emails, exchanged photos and the whole bit. 

The only trouble is, when they finally agreed to meet, she did not recognize him from the pictures he had provided on his internet dating profile.  He turned out to be 50 lbs lighter than he was from the photos he had sent her.

It turns out he went on a radical diet and lost tons of weight and had not take a current picture of himself.  I said 'cool, it could have been the other way around'.  She agreed but wished he had been more up front about it, at least have given her a head's up about it.

 
 

Some people would say that once you have found your mate through an internet dating site and are happy as can be, that you should delete your profile and accounts from the various internet dating sites that you are registered with.  Although, it seems logical, I don't think its prudent.

For one thing, you don't know if this is going to be THE long term relationship that you were waiting for.  You need to give a relationship the test of time before you can honestly say that it is.

Let's face it, there were plenty of times that we have all felt that this was 'the one' only to be disappointed that it was not. 

I believe at the very least you leave your profiles active on the free internet dating sites and cancel the ones where you are charged a fee for their services.  No point in paying for a service that you no longer need or use.

That way, all is not lost.  If it doesn't work out, not to worry, just get back on that horse and start out again.  You don't have to feel so overwhelmed at the thought of starting out on the internet dating game again when you already have active accounts just waiting there for you to be used.

 
 

There are a few key ingredients to writing a good profile on any internet dating site.  A good internet dating service will give you lots of room to express yourself and your creativity. It's imperative that you complete your profile IN FULL.  Don't take short cuts by abbreviating words or using poor grammar.  Use spell check before you post your profile and let it do the work for you. 

Write your profile as if you are speaking to someone right in front of you because when someone is reading it, you want them to feel that you are talking directly to them.  This helps to engage someone and increases your chances of them contacting you.

Remember when it comes to internet dating, there is tough competition out there, so you need to put your best foot forward right from the start.  Good luck!