On any internet dating site, your key to success is how you communicate. You want a site that allows you to freely communicate with one another yet still allow for privacy. For instance you want chat rooms or a messaging system that allows you to communicate after you have received and accepted an invitation from someone.  It is imperative that strict privacy measures are in place.  You don't want to be talking to a weirdo you don't know simply because he sees that you are on line and has the ability to start messaging you.   If you find someone that you would like to get to know better, don't be shy and make the first move to say hello and start up a conversation.  Make small talk over the internet - it works!